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SDSM San Diego Sexual Medicine: Sex Questions Answered

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San diego is your fox 5 news hey okay we are back with our sex experts this morning we’ve got dr. rose hartzell as well as dr. goldstein from san diego sexual medicine at alvarado hospital they’re answering all of your questions this morning when it comes to the bedroom so if you have a little one in the room right now we love to tell you this we love to warn you

Ahead of time go ahead and shoo them out of the room maybe give them an activity some crafts or something like that because we’re going to be talking about adult stuff thank y’all for being here both of you we have a couple of your questions absolutely let’s get right to our viewer questions our first one is kind of lengthy but i think it’s important first question

Says i’ve been married to my wife for five years i’ve noticed a decrease in my sexual desire i used to have a much higher desire for women that i dated before her is there any hope for me what kinds of things might increase might desire dr. goldstein we’ll start with you first well all of these questions will have a biopsychosocial component so a man who has low

Desire should get a biologic evaluation say hormones could be mixed up it could be that his erections are off and that makes them have low interest it could be that there are other medical issues like a thyroid problem so it has to be done together but it needs to be done where each thing is done independently and then a panel made of what is right what’s wrong

Dr. heartless yeah this is the question i often hear a lot and part of it is because sometimes men date people who they will lust after and then they’ll marry people they love but you kind of have both and we and one thing that i often recommend to these couples is to ask your partner for what you might want in the bedroom that you might have done with these other

People and you might be surprised you’re the person you love might be wanting a little more lust in the bedroom as well might be willing and open yes so no don’t be afraid to ask for that very good okay our next question lately i’ve been feeling like my husband is more of a roommate than a romantic partner i’m worried that we might be headed towards a sexless

Marriage how can we get the passions back we’ll start with you rose the first thing i would ask that person to do is to get passion back into their own life what things draw them to you or make them feel good as it art is it working out what first get your passion in your own life and then bring it to your partner another thing which sounds counterintuitive is

To fight a little more that can bring a little fire into a relationship that doesn’t have any passion and then you recommend beitzel like picking a fight what do you do to there’s a suits to a degree um couples that have void conflict at all costs can awful often have what i call a cold relationship so if things are bothering you you want to bring them up some

Conflict is good and everything in balance or moderation is can be good for a couple and the last thing that i was just thinking of is me to do some things out of the ordinary junoon exciting things get the heart rate up to get the passion outside the bedroom together and hopefully it will follow you back it was bad i think or something like that exactly means

Whatever it’s basically the same answer if she’s on birth control pills if she is on antidepressant agents she’s going to have low interest on a medical basis so she can skydive all she wants but she doesn’t have the basic biol√≥gicas of testosterone and other hormones she’s going to have low interest and she’s going to blame the low interest on psychologic issues

Were here yeah so again the the the sexual medicine issue is the biopsychosocial dr. herzl is awesome we need to get some biologic effort and then we could make things happen interesting okay i like this question because everybody’s going out for valentine’s day they’re cooking for valentine’s day so are there any foods or drinks that have been proven to increase

Libido dr. gupta you’re not in your head diet and exercise are very important so foods that like raw diet or the one that we have the most information is mediterranean diet that’s fruits nuts vegetables olive oil a little bit of wine we have we have data on that exercise is very important get your adrenaline up its as rose talked about yeah rose any other foods

Or drinks no but i know that you’re cooking tonight with you that good or not oh my god next i like this question this is from a viewer of your wants to know dis size actually matter rose you know i would actually be a big fat liar if i said size does not matter so it does to a degree but it depends on the partner so for some woman it isn’t as big and what what

Really matters the most oversized is that your partner is a good listener in the bedroom is that they listen to your physical and your vocal cues and recommendations right exactly roses 110 correct the average the average is 5 to 6 inches so you can go with that and find out some someone well-endowed may actually be a lousy person and someone shorter mayor should

Be a better person and it’s the whole package that’s the key doctors thank you so much for you you always really appreciate okay now you can bring the kids back in the room if you want to you can reach dr. goldstein and dr. hartsville at san diego sexual medicine at alvarado hospital all right now let’s set it on back inside to you okay erica fox thank you very much

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